Part of healing the past is owning the wrongs we have made towards people and places while living in our addiction. An amends is not an apology or “I’m sorry” for a wrongdoing. The most widely accepted way to offer an amends is to simply state, “I did (fill in the blank), what can I do to make that right for you? ” It is not a time to make excuses for our behavior instead, it’s an open door for the wronged person to express themselves. They get the opportunity to express how my actions affected them.
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Twelve Steps for Parents: How to Make Amends with Children and Family
At living amends, we understand lack of finances is the main reason most clients do not follow through with a sober living environment. By this time, insurance has run out, and families are exhausted. Living Amends seeks to be the hand up not a hand out. Go here to begin the process to secure a scholarship to a sober living community. In early recovery, parents might feel pressured to make up for lost time and experiences.
An example would be telling someone how sorry you are that you stole from them and actually giving back what you took.
Promises to do things differently
Those in recovery are encouraged to make direct amends whenever possible. Yet, to be truly successful at forgiving and releasing past wrongs, you need to go directly to the individual you’ve hurt. When you go directly to the person, real spiritual transformation is more likely to occur. Apologies can only go so far in repairing past pain, but it’s a place where you need to begin to heal.